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Everything That is Wrong With the World, As Told by Facebook Likes: Part 2

Trawling Facebook for pages to use for the last post, and for this one, has brought me very close on numerous occasions to deleting my own Facebook. The amount of hatred, ignorance and mockery of serious issues that occurs on there sickens me. Eventually I didn’t delete mine, because I choose not to use it that way and enjoy using it the way I do (socially). I am of course not blaming Facebook for this, but it’s just horrible to see people’s hatred gathered and presented in words on the internet. I am aware it’s all over the internet. The difference with Facebook is that attached to the words is a name, a picture, and a profile, and if you click through to that profile, more often than not the people saying these disgusting things look like normal people. People you could have gone to school with, people you would have a drink with in the pub, people you might be friends with. In an anonymous internet setting, it’s easy to pretend that those making hateful, offensive comments are just ‘trolling’ or characterise them as horrible human beings and nothing else. Seeing it all on Facebook from normal looking people, a lot of which are the same age as me, makes me realise how entrenched these attitudes our in our society, and how acceptable they have become.

Let me begin with a group titled simply ‘Paki Bashing’. This, to the best of my knowledge, is described as a ‘sport’ in which people go around and ‘bash Pakis’. Quite self-explanatory, and utterly vile. It’s unfortunate that I’ve heard this term before I saw this Facebook group. Here is an example of what is said in the comments (leaving out names):

fucking muzzzie scum they shud b put in to a gas chamber bfor b in mulistated and b in forced to eat pork

Yes, that’s somebody saying that Muslims should be put into a gas chamber. A gas chamber. I can’t figure out if ‘mulistated’ is meant to spell mutilated or molested, but both are things you should not be wishing upon another human being for any reason, let alone their skin colour or religious beliefs. Here’s more:

unlike you we don’t fuck our cousins, marry children or stink. You would kill for white skin so fuck you raghead

You would kill for white skin‘? Wow. Anyone with this attitude needs to have a word with themselves. Your skin colour does not make you any better than anyone else. Your skin colour does not make you any different from anyone else. You are not superior to anyone on the basis that you have white skin. After reading comments like these, it comes as no surprise that 4,927 people ‘like’ the BNP, and 21,320 like the EDL. On the EDL group there is a girl who is either a troll or has multiple personalities, with comments ranging from ‘allah is a pedofile‘ to ‘I would sacrifice my life just to end racism and all of the evilness going on in the world‘. Whether she is unstable or simply making a joke of the whole thing I may never know.

One day our descendants will think it incredible that we paid so much attention to things like the amount of melanin in our skin or the shape of our eyes or our gender instead of the unique identities of each of us as complex human beings – Franklin Thomas

Racism isn’t born, folks, it’s taught.  I have a two-year-old son.  You know what he hates?  Naps!  End of list -Dennis Leary

Moral of the story: People need to stop being disgusting and hateful to each other. People need to stop using Facebook to perpetuate damaging stereotypes. People need to be nice to people.

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Everything That is Wrong With the World, As Told by Facebook ‘Likes’

If you don’t know what I mean by ‘Facebook likes’, look here. They are pages that people can like, and more often than not are quotes, observations or anecdotes. The idea itself isn’t all that terrible. The execution, however, leads to it being a place where decency and taste go to die. Maybe I’m grumpy, angry and old before my time. It’s a possibility, and I think I’m alright with it.

Between racism, homophobia and rape jokes, we find the word ‘slut’ being bandied around, and occasionally personal attacks. Recently a friend of mine liked the page ‘Riding your Girlfriend softly cause you dont want to wake her up‘. I find everything about this completely disgusting, from the idea of having sex with someone while they are sleeping, to the fact that 69,496 people, including my friend, think this is either acceptable or hilarious. Rape jokes are not, and will never, be ok. (If, for some reason, you need to know why this is, please head over to STFU Rape Culture @ Tumblr and search for a post made about rape jokes. While you’re there, read everything else. Thanks.) I’m slightly happier to say that I looked on the page now and have found a raging battle in the comments between decent humans saying things along the line of ‘having sex with a sleeping person is definitely rape; rape jokes are a very bad thing; people should not be liking this page’ and nasty little scrotes saying things along the lines of ‘it’s only a joke; rape jokes don’t make people rape; a sleeping girl would probably want it if she were awake’ (and some other stuff I would not be ok with copy&pasting or even rephrasing). It’s nice to know that people are willing to argue about this, even against people who don’t seem to want to listen, or worse, those who think it’s cool to say ‘edgy’, offensive things. (Once again, if you need to know: it’s not. There is plenty written on the matter by people who can say it far better than I can. I will link anyone who wants to read.)

I found another page, which I can’t seem to link to, telling us the ‘top 10 reasons why guys rule.’ These reasons range from number one, ‘I can stick my dick in your mouth’, to number nine, ‘I can stick it in your mouth while I play games’, culminating in number ten, ‘I have a dick is why I rule, bitches’. The rest of the reasons are similar, in that they are places on your body that the creator of this page assumes he can put his dick into. Well, what a highly convincing argument as to why men are superior to women. You’ve just discounted feminism completely! Or not. Thankfully this hasn’t reached the level of popularity as the page I first mentioned, with less than 500 followers. Still, there is something important to say to those people: if your sole reason for your superiority is your dick and the various places you can stick it, you need to stop viewing women/people as holes into which to place your penis, and find something better to do.

Then we get to the casual, rampant use of the word ‘slut’. (If you’d like to know why you shouldn’t just throw the word around, please read this) If you do a Facebook search for ‘slut’, then filter it so you only see the pages, you have to scroll for a while to get past the ones that are just called ‘slut’ and say nothing else, but when you do, it gets ugly. The general gist of a lot of the is ‘He’s my boyfriend, don’t talk to him, you slut’. Why are we calling girls sluts for talking to our boyfriends? Why do girls need to call girls sluts all the time? Also, if you don’t trust your boyfriend, please don’t assume it is the responsibility of the girls you see as sluts to stay away from him. It should be his responsibility to stay faithful to you. We also see ‘You are a slut, get hit by a car’ and ‘You’re ugly but you’re a slut, how does that work?’ Does anyone really wish horrible accidents on people because of their sex life (or the perception of their sex life, their reputation, a rumour etc)? Also, ugly is subjective: just because you think somebody is, doesn’t mean other people do. Never mind that somebody’s looks have nothing to do with their sex life. There is a page called, quite tellingly, ‘”She’s a slut” “Is she really?” “Nah, I just don’t like her”‘.

You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it ok for guys to call you sluts and whores.‘ – Mean Girls

Slut-bashing is a cheap and easy way to feel powerful. If you feel insecure or ashamed about your own sexual desires, all you have to do is call a girl a “slut” and suddenly you’re the one who is “good” and on top of the social pecking order.‘ – Leora Tanenbaum

Notes:

  •  I am not saying STFU Rape Culture or Feminism 101 are the best or only sources of information about the issues I’ve raised. They are simply the ones I read the most.
  • I have been guilty of using the word ‘slut’ to belittle other females in the past, but I’ve seen the error of my ways and I’m working on changing my language and attitude. Other people ought to as well.
  • I tried to be as articulate as I could in this post but some things make me so angry that I start to ramble and try to cram all my opinions into one sentence. Sorry!
  • I might make another post dealing with the pages showing racism, homophobia, and personal attacks. Watch this space!
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